Stay. Faraway, so Close
July 30, 2009 § Leave a comment
Caring is based on friendship, kinship and belonging beyond doubt. It is taking possession of another’s well being to the extent you seek responsibility for the person. A friend will forgive you, and remember that you were driven by caring and love; especially if you had the balls to call him a pig whiling in his share in the mire of life. A fact most people forget that their erstwhile significant other is a friend too, just because bodily fluids, hormones and certain romantic insecurities get in the way of having the courage to do what is right for the person.
It is always easy to stay detached, step back and pat a person affectionately or empathize even. Getting involved is not making another’s problem yours, but taking the effort to find a solution as if it was yours. Anyone who matters, at least in my understanding of the people who matter, should be able to shake me harder when necessary simply because they are closer. It is the right of anyone close enough to see the mess and if they don’t use it, they are in some ways both insulting my faith in the relationship and failing themselves by hoarding their ability to respond (hence responsibility).
If you care, be ready to get slapped for it. Caring is creepy as the Eels put it, simply because it is twice the exposure. For yourself, and the person you care about. And it only multiplies as your network/networth of caring people grows. If the multiplier here is the goodwill then the responsibility of nourishing it also lies within that existent community of people who think for each other as much as about each other.